Sara Ruddick explained that complete sex acts are superior to incomplete ones, one would personally agree to this statement. Most of people’s sexual acts are put in the category of “complete sex acts”. There is a mutual respect for one sexual partner and the other; therefore, both try to “complete” each others sexual desires. Respecting the other person one is having intercourse with is like signing a mutual agreement to satisfy each other. For example, if one partner gives oral sex that means that person wants to receive it after (this is just my own personal belief and experiences). The mutual agreement also includes that fact that couples would not involve in sexual acts that either of them are not comfortable with. Despite the importance of the mutual respect agreement that is part of “complete sex acts” the agreement is an unconscious one, but it is present when a couple is taking part in “complete sex acts” that Ruddick calls the “respect for persons”. I think the mutual respect for the other person is important; otherwise, your sexual partner is used as an object, with no emotions and just there to sexually satisfy the sexual need of the other. Therefore, even if you are having sexual intercourse with someone that is not your lover, I think the mutual agreement of complete sex acts still plays a role. Some people may experience the mutual agreement with both lovers and non-lovers. Some people think that the mutual respect agreement in complete sex acts helps with the sexual connection with non-lover(s) during the period of intercourse. Sometimes some may even be sexually satisfied to the point where one may think a non-lover is really a lover. Therefore, the feeling of intercourse with non-lovers is rewarding due to the mutual agreement, because both the non-lover(s) is sexually satisfied.

Dear xangans,

Have you guys every noticed that your taste in the opposite sex change within time? I surprisingly just noticed this recently. In the past, i was more attracted to guys that were outgoing, down to earth and had a sensitive side. I never cared about how they express or relate themselves to society; having a goal for themselves, and making something of their life. This fact never really ran through my mind. These days I've realized there is something that could be more attractive than a guy's look or personality ( not saying that it doesn't matter), but his intelligence could drown those other traits out ( personal thought).

Maybe this change is because of age; being older and wiser. What i thought was attractive 3 years ago is totally different from what i find attractive now. Maybe its just me and everyone has their own personal experience with this kind of change.  

Have you ever experience this? What are your personal thoughts.